As a wise little green man once said "Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." I have written a lot about the idea of fear in my previous posts because as a Type 6 on the enneagram scale, it's an emotion I deal with a lot. I think most of us would agree that our fears determine our decisions in a lot of way.
There is a difference between being faithful and being foolish. Between being loyal and being lackadaisical. Between being doting and being a doormat. And like every good poker player knows, winning is about knowing when to hold them and knowing when to fold them.
To all of you fellow singletarians out there (made that word up, pretty good right?) don't keep wondering when your "Mr./Mrs. Right" will come along. Just keep running your own race. The right person will keep up. The wrong person will fall behind. But either way, you'll be the one reaching the finish line.
This past weekend I took my annual "solo adventure". Last year, my inaugural quest took me to Rhode Island where I stayed in a studio Air BnB in downtown Providence, explored Brown University and RISD and spent the next day doing the Cliff Walk in Newport and lusting over every square inch of The Breakers. This year, my destination was Lenox, Massachusetts where every year an exceptional man by the name of John Williams hosts a concert with the Boston Symphony Orchestra where they perform some of his legendary works at a little music venue called Tanglewood. (If you don't know who John Williams, just think Star Wars, Jurassic Park, Jaws, Superman, E.T., Harry Potter -the first three at least, and Indiana Jones). The...
The lessons learned from Anakin Skywalker, crazy as it may sound, can be applied to every day life. Fear can be a debilitating experience, and if we don't both recognize and confront those fears, they will eventually dictate our futures for us.